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What's your gender? || If a man on the street shouts "hey baby" or "what's up beautiful" or "dat ass tho" (or the gendered equivalent if you're a dude e.g. "handsome"), you'd feel ____

male | positively
56.5%
male | negatively
28.1%
female | positively
3.8%
female | negatively
11.7%

4,352 votesFinal results

3:51 AM · Aug 8, 2020

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Anecdotally— as a man, actually complimenting straight dudes is a very risky call, some are touched and secure and accept. Others become defensive, uncomfortable and occasionally aggressive. They don’t like to feel like the woman does, is the inside explanation.

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I think if you’re respectfully acknowledging their beauty or whatever in a more objective fashion— “you’re a hot dude,” that goes better than objectifying them sexually (“what that __ do”)

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Gay men hit on me way more than women do. I’m not gay, but it’s definitely an ego boost

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I've been catcalled by men and women at work and in public. As a straight man I never took it negatively.

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If a man told me I was handsome and I didn’t know him, I’d be concerned. Mostly because I’m not attracted to men and compliments make me very uncomfortable, especially from strangers.

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I went with positive as my reaction would not be negative, but more like nonplussed or slightly confused by it.

Uncertain Boltzmann Brain

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Is “handsome” the equivalent of “dat ass tho” ? Lol i dont know, perhaps pretty?

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Was walking to tennis one day a couple years ago, and a guy catcalled me from his car to the extent that drivers behind him had to honk I'm straight but rarely have I felt so flattered

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I voted "positively" as a male but it would probably be more neutral, or even met with confusion, because I've never had it happen. Though in the long run, I would take it as a compliment.

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what would be the male equivalent of catcalling, and, what are some examples of women "catcalling" men, i wonder.