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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Over time I've realized that the path to self-acceptance is facing the most horrible parts about yourself - to admit truths that would have made you flinch away. It requires coming to terms with [being any terrible thing], to embrace it, integrate it, and stop moving from fear.1/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
This necessary step on the path to self-acceptance is *actively discouraged* by society. There's no room to say "Hey guys, [gross thing] is true about me", without getting socially barred, even if it's also true about the people doing the barring. 2/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Aella_Girl
And so cultures that fail to stop judging their closet skeletons and are more interested in shaming and exclusion for people being upfront about their dark or unflattering sensations, I predict will have much higher rates of anxiety, depression, and unhappiness. 3/3
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Greg Dember
@GregDember
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@Aella_Girl
I'm older -- early GenX -- and I feel like when I was in my 20s we DID have room to publicly confront gross things about ourselves and receive a sympathetic response. Something changed in the last 15 years.
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@thisis_water
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@Aella_Girl
It's is often just "This thing is true (i.e. a consistent pattern) about my *mind* and I'm aware of it" - but since most of society has no concept of decoupling the thought and the observer of the thought, even saying as much is heresy.
Augustine
@AugustineFacts
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@Aella_Girl
If not barred, simply denied. Try telling your friends you're coming to terms with being, say, overweight. They'll deny it, reassuring you that nothing is wrong, discouraging action.
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Meerkat Jesus
@MeerkatJesus
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@Aella_Girl
Thanks for talking about this I've been doing alot of self-assessment of my past behavior and how to be a better person from it But fuck sometimes I get to the point I question if it's worth because there's no support system for addressing your ugly sides