All the telegram groups I was in got mad at me cause they interpreted my earlier tweet as though I was gonna be writing about their personal information soon and destroy everything. Idk what the lesson is from this except maybe don't expect people to model you well?
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Overreacting to potential violations of your norms signals that you take those norms very seriously. Getting mad is relatively low cost, this could be rational! It's not specifically about you, it's about the group setting expectations with itself.
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Yeah. I think my difficulty is that I don't know how to 'fix' this. When I explain that my intentions aren't harmful, they don't believe me. When I point to everything I've written as evidence, they say I'm trying to 'logic my way out.' It's really confusing, how they operate.
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They should have asked what your intentions were first. Also some people will just do that regardless of things otherwise
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Lesson one: Don’t talk about what you’re going to do before you do it.
Lesson two: Generally, people are going to think the worst because it’s what they fear the most. Particularly when they have no power to stop you.
Lesson three: Groupthink doesn’t change it’s mind.
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"don't expect people to model you well"
I'm continually relearning this and slowly getting better at it.
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"Don't be ominous about possibly exposing things that are very personal and affect the livelihood of people who otherwise don't have much power" could be another lesson. If you need to say "But if you knew me you would know I would never" then it was too ambiguous.
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We're all one sentence away from pissing someone off. The real question is 'what was the intent?' but it won't matter anyway. Interpretation is winning over facts.
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Yeah. No joke. I was in one group and asked about the leaders planned star wars themed wedding she was posting pictures about. Kicked for asking off topic question. Didn't even bother to talk to me about it.
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No, about how one day I was gonna write about the marketing systems onlyfans girls use
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