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Trans women significantly outnumber trans men, and nonbinary females significantly outnumber nonbinary males. In these groups, people born male seem much more interested in a solid female identity, whereas people born female are more interested in an ambiguous one. 1/

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

In both groups, the desire to have a male identity is the smallest (trans men). Why is this? I wonder how much is due to the importance placed on being sexually desirable; for example, nonbinary females would lose sexual status if they actually passed as non-female. 2/

12:39 AM · Jul 15, 2020

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afaik this used to be true but is now not true, there are a lot more ftms transitioning than mtfs. it varies a lot depending on culture and the corner of the internet. it changed quite a lot recently, from like maybe 3:1 mtf to 3:1 ftm. 🤷🏻‍♀️ my theory was the misgynistic society

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ican’t know for sure but i’m guessing the degree of discrimination and visibility is a lot harder for transwomen than transmen, which enhances into the desire for a solid female identity. transmen post T have a lot easier time passing all impressions are distorted by passing...

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curious if a lot of it has to do with the protected role females experience in society, i.e. less likely to be sent to war and more resources/shelters for female-identifying people

@a_yawning_cat

Jul 15, 2020

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@Aella_Girl

Most men live life similar to Mr. Meseeks from Rick and Morty. Existence is pain when not striving for and achieving some goal.

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non-conforming is much more tolerated in women (tomboys, butch, etc.) than it is in men. AFAB have more experience pushing gender boundaries before transitioning; they have less difficulty explaining NB identities to other people; and their likely partners are more tolerant of it

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It is because this, mostly in the sense of how unequal is being sexually desirable as a men. Men attractiveness is Pareto Women attractiveness is Gaussian

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Ding ding ding

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In part because they get cultural cachet simply for being a woman or nonbinary or whatever so you get points for cheap. If you want to get unfair dude points you have to "get into the room where it happens". Nobody gives a shit about a mediocre dude

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@drethelin

Jul 15, 2020

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@Aella_Girl

Male identity is fundamentally performative and competitive and and most people don't have that kind of drive. Consider how few cis-men are performing the idealized male gender too.

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Despite all the hand waving, none of this develops w/o supporting underlying biology, altered developmental exposure/response to sec steroids. And that's asymmetrical.