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just saw a reddit thread where they're like 'if you're forbidding your partner from masturbating, that's religious brainwashing!' but in the same breath being totally fine with forbidding your partner from pursuing other things they might want even if it damages nobody at all.

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Such as?

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having sex with other people

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

May 12, 2020

Can you imagine saying this about a relationship that had a similar approach towards emotional intimacy? "We're not forbidding each other from not having any friends, we've just voluntarily agreed to both give up other friends"

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Addendum: This isn't me saying cutting out everyone but your partner is a good or healthy choice or something I would do myself. Just saying that if both people (not just one) voluntarily (not coerced) do it, then that's just the dynamic that works for them and it's fine.

Aella

@Aella_Girl

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@VanChandler10

Yeah, except like 50% of people admit to being unfaithful at some point - so this is a default voluntarily arrangement that somehow doesn't actually seem to be fulfilling what people actually want

4:51 PM · May 12, 2020

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Being unfaithful could mean sexually, emotionally, just through emails, texts, or sometimes, even just thoughts. The definition changes with each individual. And it's usually during a difficult window with their partner, not during ideal times. Context matters. (1/2)

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Also, that's like saying 100% of people lie, therefore telling the truth is a harmful default behavior for people to have. People lie, steal, cheat, fight, etc all the time, but that doesn't mean they're lashing out from being oppressed from some desired alternative life. (2/2)