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Current progressive gender theory seems really inadequate, but it's popular because it's serving an important function - it's giving name and validation to actual experiences people are having. Does anyone have suggestions for a different theory that serves this function better?

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Do we really need a theory in order to describe these experiences?

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Sort of yes? I know maybe that sounds weird, but like... there's something really powerful in having something diagnostically named and labeled as a common experience. People talk about this sort of relief after finding out the name for their mental illness, not "Im just weird"

4:06 AM · Apr 27, 2020

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Okay, I can understand that, but I don't really think it's helpful to transfer that concept to gender.

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This never happened to me somehow. I like being weird though,so maybe that's why.

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I think there's: (1) The "nice weird" (which probably is a result of a positive reclaimal of a negatively loaded term:a good thing) from (2) The "I-don't-belong kind of weird". To know the experience is shared is also to know that you do belong, more than you believed before.

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This is slave morality. Stop worrying about social consensus and live in the pre-label world of the Real!

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What's wrong with gender dysphoria? It's not something new and it exists separately from todays crazy ideas.

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It's not precisely the existence of a label that does this. It's when there's people telling you what to do with your weirdness. That means that there's a role in your culture for people like you. Even if that role is low status, it at least lets you escape nihilism.

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A diagnosis isn’t a theory.

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Being able to make sense of your own experiences is a big deal. Whether society is willing or able to accept/understand them is also a big deal. I really liked this post: notebook.drmaciver.com/posts/2018-11-

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Yeah it's called A DECADES-LONG NEED YO CHANGE THIS SEXIST SYSTEM OPPRESSING SOCIETY TO FIT STEREO TYPES! Follow the money bro. Christians usually be behind all of it.

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I get this, it's like, even the most lone-wolfy types have a desire to belong and not be isolated/alone, and possibly a lot of us (me! before I met my spouse) feel like we don't really fit in that well even with most of our very good friends that we are comfortable with, but