I wonder how much of my difficulty understanding nonbinary identities comes from having been in sex work for sooo long, where the genitals you have are incredibly important to how you're treated and the role you play.
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My roommate wants to know if you have the same incomprehension of binary trans people since presumably they would have the same mismatch between genitals and "role", except if they get very rare/expensive surgery.
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Not really. The thing that makes men want to pay is often "the appearance of woman", which trans people can have if they pass hard enough.
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Id assume if they pass, gay men will be their primary funding source, a'la buck angel.
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In general trans people make way more sense to me than nonbinary ppl. Trans people are just trying to switch the category convincingly. Nonbinary people are saying no category applies, which is mind boggling for me.
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I feel like there are a whole wealth of human interactions that are not "paying for or being paid for sex/porn" which do not rely on this categorization.
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I think there's a lot of human interactions which aren't being paid for sex/porn that do also rely on this categorization.
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it's also mind-boggling for me and at this point i consider myself nonbinary 😅
male and female categories seem to fit most people pretty comfortably but if i try to apply them internally the output is ?????????
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It’s not that all of them are saying that no category applies, it’s that binary gender gender doesn’t necessarily apply. It makes sense to me that something as overwhelmingly intricate and ambiguous as the human experience and psyche could be more nuanced than “A or B.”
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I very much doubt that non binary people don't believe that certain parts of themselves fit into each side of a gender binary, but rather that it's such an ambiguous uneven fit that they feel uncomfortable identifying themselves in either category.
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