I wonder how much of my difficulty understanding nonbinary identities comes from having been in sex work for sooo long, where the genitals you have are incredibly important to how you're treated and the role you play.
My roommate wants to know if you have the same incomprehension of binary trans people since presumably they would have the same mismatch between genitals and "role", except if they get very rare/expensive surgery.
In general trans people make way more sense to me than nonbinary ppl. Trans people are just trying to switch the category convincingly. Nonbinary people are saying no category applies, which is mind boggling for me.