Polyamory isn’t for me tbh. I’m generally not a jealous type, but I draw the line at another man being intimate with my wife.
I find it difficult to understand how people in such relationships manage jealousy, insecurities etc. Must take a very mentally strong person.
i've been poly for a long time, and it is a learning process. with one partner, I started off feeling *intense*, almost sickening jealousy when he was with other women, but over the course of 4-6 months it weakened until it completely went away.
Sort of neither? I've had other relationships that felt like I did a bit of the above, but with the one I'm describing, it was mostly like... my hindbrain slowly realized that actually him having sex with other people *didn't* mean he was gonna leave me.