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@Aella_Girl
I usually assume people, when selecting mates, have a calibration thing in their heads that evaluates the pool of mate choices "in their league", and then experiences attraction to a top narrow percent of them. I also assume this percentage remains stable; as in, if you-
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@Aella_Girl
shake up the mate pool, or change what "in their league" means, that the person's attraction will naturally revert to being triggered by the same top narrow percent. This feels true because everyone I know seems to be attracted to roughly the same amount of people.
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@Aella_Girl
This is different for men and women ofc, but when adjusting for that, these "attraction pools" seem roughly the same size. Is this a thing? Have people studied this? I want to know the size and variance of this "top narrow percent" is. I'll accept anything even slightly related.
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@Aella_Girl
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@MatthewGalanty
Thanks! I know I said anything slightly related, but this feels like a miss to me - iirc this was just rating photos, whereas when I'm talking about attractiveness I'm referring to a much more holistic thing.
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@Aella_Girl
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@MatthewGalanty
I remember I was at a retreat, and we were talking up a guy who was late to arrive. Told stories, said he was fantastic. Later on, a girl at the retreat hooked up with him. When asked about it later, she said that the fact he was so well liked by the group pre-made her attracted.
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