I usually assume people, when selecting mates, have a calibration thing in their heads that evaluates the pool of mate choices "in their league", and then experiences attraction to a top narrow percent of them. I also assume this percentage remains stable; as in, if you-
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Thanks! I know I said anything slightly related, but this feels like a miss to me - iirc this was just rating photos, whereas when I'm talking about attractiveness I'm referring to a much more holistic thing.
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http://people.duke.edu/~dandan/webfiles/PapersUpside/Hot%20or%20Not.pdf … might be too image-focused but there are some useful citations in the intro
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Don't know of any research but evolutionarily how else could it work. Your genes don't pre-know their own relative hotness so they must come with a calibration mechanism or we would risk Giant Panda-ing ourselves. Or, conversely end our line by making relatively unfit matches.
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I def read stuff about this, not entirely sure where. You will find some things there: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/ … In particular on statistics eg: "daters of both genders tend to pursue prospective mates who are on average 25 percent more desirable than they are" (ur "top percent")
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most of what I read is very number-oriented though, looking at the "macro" scale, so they miss the nuance/individual personality that matters when you consider individuals and not a trend...
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Different for men and women how?
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I think
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This isn't an answer, because I don't know. But maybe a slight twist where it's not a % of people in your league but just of people available? Not in terms of marriage I mean in your vicinity. I for one am attracted out of my league.
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It seems to be a thing. Buss’s Evolution of Desire talks about how we see ourselves amongst the pool of the potential mates, i.e. I am an X, I should date an X. I do find that so much of my experience is deeply relative but nevertheless feels nontrivially objective.
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