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ok I think the thing about genderpeople that *actually* bothers me is that I feel not allowed to use my own gender framework around them. I honestly don't give a shit how they present, how deviant from gender norms they are, whether they wear makeup or a boy cut. (1/6)

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Genderpeople is a bad term, it does not reflect the usual names we use for ourselves so it reads like a deliberately misreflected flippancy in a way that's meant to wound: trans and non-binary people is the standard phrase that's quite common, including in legal documents maybe.

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I'd like to think that the more we can relax, reduce the emotional temperature about difference, misunderstanding and intellectual dissonance the more we do understand, the more we can work out how we coexist ethically, the less we need to explain.

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I wanted a term for "people who care a lot about their pronouns", which *can* include cis folk. I still don't think there's a term that actually encompasses what I meant, which is why I invented one. Still, enough people interpreted the term negatively I'm fine not using it

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Ah, yes. Nouns are indeed just shorthand for concepts. Some of us, especially non-binary people are pronoun indifferent. Some people who are indifferent to gender identity as such in words, some identity as non binary. And Vi Hart had an interesting video On Gender, in this area.