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Lately people have been telling me gender identity is a thing you feel - that you can 'feel like a woman', for example. But I legit don't understand what that means. Does feeling like a woman mean you want to wear women's clothes? Or have a vagina? Or get sexually pursued?

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

I do mean it untrollish; but to just be really concrete about what we mean here - when you say a feeling that you are supposed to be a gender (let's say woman) - how do you know what that gender is? what defines it? how do you know when you've succeeded?

1:01 AM · Apr 8, 2020

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Vaetan Thought

@VaetanThought

Apr 8, 2020

Really it has nothing to do with gender then; it has to do with making society conform to your will.

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I think the word that’s causes trouble here is "woman". In gender-terms, that’s fluid as fuck. If you felt like a "gloink", you’d be hard pressed to define that even if 4 billion other people agreed they felt gloink too. I never understood that shit either. I feel human.

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If you are being sincere, afaiu it’s a sense of proprioceptive or other dysphoria. Eg if you walked into a restaurant and people said “oh hey fella” & proceeded to treat you as a man, it’d feel...off at best. Expectation/reality mismatch, like a missing stair