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ok I think the thing about genderpeople that *actually* bothers me is that I feel not allowed to use my own gender framework around them. I honestly don't give a shit how they present, how deviant from gender norms they are, whether they wear makeup or a boy cut. (1/6)

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@orchidconjurer

Apr 7, 2020

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@Aella_Girl

I'm going to assume this is a good faith attempt at discussion, and respond with an honest question: What would using your own gender framework around a transgender person look like in practice?

Aella

@Aella_Girl

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@orchidconjurer

Mostly be allowed to talk about it? Not that I have to interject it everywhere but when it's relevant/when it comes up. Like, for example my framework means that I feel dishonest when I use someone's preferred pronouns. I'm still willing to *do* it, it just results in that feelin

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Apr 8, 2020

It's relevant when I have to use those preferred pronouns and feel funny about it. Ofc I don't actually say anything irl because I don't want them to feel bad. Just, ideally, I wish I wouldn't have to actively avoid letting them know how I feel.