Dude the online trans crowd is the most uncharitable, cruel group I've ever encountered. Had to block a hundred people calling me a piece of shit this morning.
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
You were transphobic. You're not a piece of shit but maybe you should reflect on what you said because it was totally unnecessary. Very roundabout way to say "I'll use your pronouns" and then still be transphobic when no one asked how you saw them.
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Replying to @adultscreams @beholdento
Transphobic feels like a war, shutdown word at this point, like people use that word as some final accusatory label and then I'm expected to be 'oh shit you're right let me say the appropriate measures so you lift that terrible stamp". I'm not actually afraid of trans people.
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
Does homophobia mean "afraid of gay people" no, it includes prejudice as well. Same thing here. No one's calling you transphobic to shut you down, they're really just trying to tell you how it is. There was no reason for your tweet, very ignorant mindset, all due respect
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Replying to @adultscreams @Aella_Girl
Why use a person's pronouns and then give them an opinion on their body and life that wasn't asked for?
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Replying to @adultscreams @beholdento
I *don't* do this. I literally do not do this. I'm not an asshole.
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
Your tweet in question (or at least the one I've seen floating) said "in an ideal world, I'd use your pronouns, but I also see you as your biological sex". that's unnecessary.
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Replying to @adultscreams @beholdento
My ideal world is unnecessary? I don't do the thing I stated in my ideal world, because my the current world is not oriented in such a way that people would understand what I was communicating. People are acting like I go around refusing to use pronouns - I *do not* do this.
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
No, they're acting like you'd bring up a trans persons birth sex for no reason, which is what you'd ideally like to do like you said.. What is gained from your ideal interaction vs reality? I'm actually curious. Most trans people would be made incredibly dysphoric from your words
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Replying to @adultscreams @beholdento
Oh it is for a reason - they want me to use a description (pronouns) for them that is contradictory to my experience of them. That feels weird to do for me. In my ideal world, I'd like to be able to talk about this being weird and the fact that I'm doing this *for* them.
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What's gained from it is a feeling of intimacy, openness, and honesty. I really value communities where people can be open about parts of themselves that are sometimes painful for others; it feels really beautiful and connective.
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
Yes that can be awesome. But this level of openness very much varies.. again most people suffer with incredible dysphoria. For a non binary person like me, it doesn't bother me. Others, it could trigger massive dysphoria. I'm glad you don't say it for that reason.
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Replying to @adultscreams @beholdento
Agreed. I don't say it. I am well aware that the world I'm in is not ideal. I don't want to hurt people.
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