So to reiterate - any expression you want to have with your own body, clothing, mannerism, vocabulary - I welcome it.
But I want to retain ownership over the way gender resonates with me. To me, all that stuff above has very little to do with gender. (3/6)
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To me, expression is independent of gender, and your gender is completely outside of your control; it resides in the eyes of society. Gender *is* an assignment of society. And so when people expect me to view them as a gender I don't view them as, that just does not work.(4/6)
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I can't view them as the gender they want no matter how hard I try.
And to be clear, I still use preferred pronouns and try to do all the least upsetting things for genderpeople. I just am bothered by how afraid I feel to express the way I experience gender. (5/6)
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In my ideal world, they would say "Hey, my pronouns are they/them", and then I'd say "Nice to meet you! I process your gender as your birth sex and don't view you as nonbinary personally, but I'm happy to use your pronouns if that makes you more comfortable." (6/6)
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this is horribly, terribly worded but I kind of get it... for those who are not well-versed in the concept of non-binary identity, it takes some conscious unlearning to refer to someone who presents as traditionally binary in gender-neutral terms
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but the last part is insane. the important part is trying - you don’t need to fully intellectualize something to respect it and not be a dick about it
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that’s entirely clear, but what’s not clear is why you’d **want** to. Begs the question, at what point does radical honesty become completely self-serving; a morally-justified means of imposing one’s worldview on their surroundings when peaceful co-existence only requires silence
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Do you not have a desire to be totally open about yourself and the way you receive the world? I agree outright doing that without regard for others is dickish, but do you not even have that desire?
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I don't ever think that is true for anyone anywhere. I believe that any conscious existence, when fully understood, is perceived with love, not with judgment.
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Yes. Every single person that has ever existed.
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