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Aella
@Aella_Girl
ok I think the thing about genderpeople that *actually* bothers me is that I feel not allowed to use my own gender framework around them. I honestly don't give a shit how they present, how deviant from gender norms they are, whether they wear makeup or a boy cut. (1/6)
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
The problem is the cluster thing of gender that my brain seems to operate by isn't easily defined by one criteria. I have successfully viewed people female before when they have male genitalia, given the rest of them adheres closely to the cluster of feminine traits.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Aella_Girl
And for trans people who successfully pass, even if I learn they're trans or any other 'facts' about them that might contradict their appearance, my brain still considers them the gender they're passing as.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Yeah, I agree that the way my brain processes gender is not like... forgiving. Most trans people don't have the ability to pass, espec. if they transitioned late or don't have money. I agree it can be extraordinarily painful to not look like the thing you want to.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Aella_Girl
I acknowledge that my instinctive processing of trans people as their birth gender is probably really painful to them. I feel empathy for this and if I could press a button to change my brain to process them as the gender they want, then I would do that.
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Divia Eden 🔍
@diviacaroline
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@Aella_Girl
I’m pretty surprised to hear you say you’d change it if you could! I think you could probably change a lot if you tried, even though you seem confident that you couldn’t.
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