i think it’s really good to value honesty like that! i think there’s a point though where like, you need to assess if it’s really worth hurting someone else though to voice an opinion on something that has nothing to do with you but fully to do with their own identity
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Right - I don't tell people I view them as their birth gender when I meet them in person. I also publicly advocate everybody go along in pretending that people are the genders they want to be. I also express online that I wish I could be honest. So far I'm ok with this.
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Like, as I've mentioned elsewhere I view this as very similar to religion. You can believe something I don't believe and that's fine, I respect your right and will fight for your safety and try to be kind about your beliefs but im also ok not personally believing it.
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you are totally free to think what you think. i think a question i have is what spurs you to vocalize this so publicly? like yes freedom of speech yeah i do get that but like, behind every trans person is a lot of trauma that comes with their identity. with this in mind (1/2)
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surely you would have expected it would upset a lot of people? if you respect them and their identity, why would this not be a topic to be kept private with like friends where people you say you respect don’t have to relive the pain they’ve been through when they see it?
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I mean how do you feel if we use that argument about religion? Btw my family is extremely religious and I definitely cause them pain when I talk about how I'm not religious and I think their beliefs are wrong. Would you advocate that I keep this to myself?
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i think it’s situational. do they believe in things that they attribute to their religion that actively causes harm to others? do they use it to discriminate against others? are these people that deny harm done by certain churches? these are things worth discussing (1/2)
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and expressing YOUR identity (non-religious) is NOT harmful. while it’s a different situation i see what you’re trying to get at here. telling other people they are wrong for the way they live if they aren’t hurting anyone is just unnecessary
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I'm absolutely not saying genderpeople (or whatever term works) are wrong for the way they live. I've never said that. I've loudly advocated that we should accept and support them.
I'm just saying *I don't agree with the framework and I'd like to be able to be honest about that*
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alright! i came here at first bc my boyfriend wanted me to bully you for your bad take but at that this point i just hope that whatever happened in your life that made you feel like youre being silenced and impairs your ability to sympathize with others is something you heal from
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