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Aella
@Aella_Girl
ok I think the thing about genderpeople that *actually* bothers me is that I feel not allowed to use my own gender framework around them. I honestly don't give a shit how they present, how deviant from gender norms they are, whether they wear makeup or a boy cut. (1/6)
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nikolas?
@shokupanfan
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@Aella_Girl
what exactly makes it so pressing for you to vocalize this? do you also feel the need to tell your friends they look like shit if they wear a shirt you wouldn’t? do you have friends
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@shokupanfan
I feel closest with someone when we can be fully honest and open about what we're feeling. It's tricky to navigate into this but when it happens I really value it.
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nikolas?
@shokupanfan
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@Aella_Girl
i think it’s really good to value honesty like that! i think there’s a point though where like, you need to assess if it’s really worth hurting someone else though to voice an opinion on something that has nothing to do with you but fully to do with their own identity
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@shokupanfan
Right - I don't tell people I view them as their birth gender when I meet them in person. I also publicly advocate everybody go along in pretending that people are the genders they want to be. I also express online that I wish I could be honest. So far I'm ok with this.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Aella_Girl
Like, as I've mentioned elsewhere I view this as very similar to religion. You can believe something I don't believe and that's fine, I respect your right and will fight for your safety and try to be kind about your beliefs but im also ok not personally believing it.
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nikolas?
@shokupanfan
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@Aella_Girl
you are totally free to think what you think. i think a question i have is what spurs you to vocalize this so publicly? like yes freedom of speech yeah i do get that but like, behind every trans person is a lot of trauma that comes with their identity. with this in mind (1/2)
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