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ok I think the thing about genderpeople that *actually* bothers me is that I feel not allowed to use my own gender framework around them. I honestly don't give a shit how they present, how deviant from gender norms they are, whether they wear makeup or a boy cut. (1/6)

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what exactly makes it so pressing for you to vocalize this? do you also feel the need to tell your friends they look like shit if they wear a shirt you wouldn’t? do you have friends

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Yes? I don't usually tell my friends if I think their clothes make them look bad but I do wish I were able to be honest when it comes up.

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lol why though

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I feel closest with someone when we can be fully honest and open about what we're feeling. It's tricky to navigate into this but when it happens I really value it.

10:40 PM · Apr 6, 2020

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i think it’s really good to value honesty like that! i think there’s a point though where like, you need to assess if it’s really worth hurting someone else though to voice an opinion on something that has nothing to do with you but fully to do with their own identity

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Right - I don't tell people I view them as their birth gender when I meet them in person. I also publicly advocate everybody go along in pretending that people are the genders they want to be. I also express online that I wish I could be honest. So far I'm ok with this.

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