ok I think the thing about genderpeople that *actually* bothers me is that I feel not allowed to use my own gender framework around them. I honestly don't give a shit how they present, how deviant from gender norms they are, whether they wear makeup or a boy cut. (1/6)
If I can't tell, then I process them as 'neither gender', which I assume is closest to nonbinary. If they're a passing trans person, then I process them as closest to their preferred gender, and this doesn't change when I find out their sex.
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sure. this whole thread is so odd—yes, gender is a societal construct, but instead of exploring how different societies construct it, or why it's constructed like this, you seem to be unequivocally buying in to the current model. do you usually do that?
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I can't not. It occurs subconsciously for me at the level of identifier; I can't force myself to see a tree as a house no matter how good your argument is. I am happy to consciously accept everything else I can around this though!
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You are really creepy. This "process" wording is really telling.
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What if you know someone as a binary man who transitions into a binary woman and passes as such. Do you change this assumption then?
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If they pass as a binary woman then I process them as a binary woman and my brain wants to use she/her pronouns.
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Lmao "when" as if any trans person would trust u with that info
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Recognizing a person based on whatever you think they "pass" as is extremely harmful to people in general whether they're cis or trans. Why not just go with what they tell you their identity is? It'll save you the effort of "processing" it yourself. -Alicia
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If you ever speed date, you'd never even make it to their name
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