ok I think the thing about genderpeople that *actually* bothers me is that I feel not allowed to use my own gender framework around them. I honestly don't give a shit how they present, how deviant from gender norms they are, whether they wear makeup or a boy cut. (1/6)
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I can't view them as the gender they want no matter how hard I try. And to be clear, I still use preferred pronouns and try to do all the least upsetting things for genderpeople. I just am bothered by how afraid I feel to express the way I experience gender. (5/6)
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In my ideal world, they would say "Hey, my pronouns are they/them", and then I'd say "Nice to meet you! I process your gender as your birth sex and don't view you as nonbinary personally, but I'm happy to use your pronouns if that makes you more comfortable." (6/6)
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"Gender *is* an assignment of society." Only a part of it. "Gender" is different from "sex." But, not independent from "sex." And, "sex" is determined only by one thing only: Physical body.
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Not really Bc im a social being And i can construct things too And so can my friends and together we acknowledge that if a construct is flawed you should work to renovate it or tear it down. Society isnt the boss of me
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"Expression is independent of gender." I like that line and will be stealing it.
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this is pretty relatable. except that for me, how someone feels internally *is* a part of what gender I assign to them. it’s still outside of their control, though (in the sense - they can’t change it without changing themselves)
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but their internal experience of “I want to present as a girl” isn’t enough to assign “girl” to them. an internal experience of “I *am* a girl” might be enough but I’m not sure if it’s always enough.
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@JuliaSerano’s explanation of gender in terms of subconscious sex or body image in her book Whipping Girl?https://www.amazon.com/Whipping-Girl-Transsexual-Scapegoating-Femininity/dp/1580056229 …Thanks. Twitter will use this to make your timeline better. UndoUndo
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You're right about one thing. Gender IS entirely beyond our control. Where you're wrong is in the assertion that gender is simply an assignment of role by society. You're talking about gender roles, not gender itself.
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In my head I think I process gender role and gender as the same? I'm not totally sure.
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