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When movies show a traditional gender roles world (like, historically or culturally), and then the women rise up and Do Feminism, I just don't buy it. I was raised in a super traditional gender roles world and I didn't see a single woman around me Doing Feminism.

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Like, not even whispers in woman-only tea parties. The closest you'd get was a woman going "oh he cheated on you? That's actually biblical grounds for divorce you know".

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Women did not believe they were chafing under the oppression of men, there was no sense of being enslaved. They all were participatory, unchallenging. Sometimes it sucked, but they'd shrug and be like, "Well, we're women, this is what it's like, what did you expect?

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So when movies portray some spirited young girl from a peroid piece community going "hey! Actually girls can do all this too!" I just see her as a puppet for the outside world which is living out its fantasy of injecting Feminism into cultures they can't access directly

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But me, having lived in a culture where our pastor's daughter was still at home at 22 because she wasn't allowed to leave home without the authority of a man over her (so had to wait till marriage), finds this alienating and unrelatable. Media does NOT know what it's like.

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Melanie Weisner

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How did you end up extricating yourself from the mental "participatory" nature of the culture you were raised in?

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I attempted to go to college (which failed) but which ended up putting me in a community that wasn't Christian or conservative. Just being an exposed to a world where women were really respected did it for me.

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Interesting. Did you find that you had any initial mental pushback, internal or otherwise (ie defending cultural norms you had been raised with) or were you immediately empowered?

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I brought a lot of old-school stuff with me for years. I was insecure about my womanhood and felt like I had to prove that I was worthy of respect despite my gender. I also had very little sympathy for other women who weren't 'strong enough'.

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Practically speaking, my life didn't change that much - I mostly just switched from anticipating marrying early and becoming a STAH mom to... having a job for a while and then maybe marrying one day? And maybe not having kids?

11:16 PM · Mar 9, 2020