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Aella
@Aella_Girl
This is kinda complicated? I agree there's pressure to signal genderfluid style acceptance virtues, but I personally experienced an actual shift here - I went from viewing it as an expression of weakness to an expression of confidence, at least in some circumstances.
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Dr. Debra Soh
@DrDebraSoh
There's nothing wrong with being attracted to masculine men. theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2 (HT @AdamCatalyst)
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
As in, it's a heavy countersignal. A man who dresses up as a woman but maintains general masculinity (confidence, wanting sex with women), and does not display insecurity about potentially embarrassing clothes, is giving a very valuable signal of social comfort, which is hot.
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Tess
@xsphi
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@Aella_Girl
A slight change of topic, but do you see gay and ace men as necessarily unmasculine? Is "wanting to have sex with women" really relevant? If so, are bi men also less masculine than otherwise identical straight men?
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@xsphi
I personally process gay and ace men as less masculine, but I think this is due to correlations with the sexuality than the sexuality itself (e.g., gotta be more aggressive to have sex with women than with men).