I don't understand when people say "This doesn't happen" in regards to people taking advantage of cultural norms. Like, how can you say false rape accusations don't happen? There will always be a type of person who figures out ways to take advantage of any norm, no matter how-
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good. People will make false rape accusations in a metoo world, and people will rape in a 'boy's club' world. There's always gonna be an insane trans person who molests someone in a bathroom, as well as an insane cis person who assaults a trans person cause they're insecure. -
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Just because your narrative is 'good' (believe victims!) doesn't mean it's impervious. As soon as you institute a rule, it can be used for nefarious purposes.
This doesn't mean we shouldn't make good rules, only that we should be open to admitting the limitations of those rules.
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I find it’s usually short hand for “this doesn’t happen at a scale that warrants the same concern or analysis.” Maybe not the most useful way to say that but I understand the frustration from trying to discuss systemic issues as others regularly concern troll with exceptions.
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The short hand is bad and explicitly wrong and does more harm than good. Simply saying "This rarely happens" would be way freaking better. Saying it never happens is literally a lie and no shit people don't trust you after that.
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If you are reasonable and see both sides, and i'm unreasonable and see only my interests. When we negotiate and try to find a middle ground the result will be closer to my interests
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The way that online communication activates an elevated level of cognitive dissonance within people is so striking that I must observe such antics and mildly react by punching out another A+ Tweet.
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It’s typically shorthand for “this is at least 1-2 orders of magnitude less common than you claim it is”
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