I have a strong avoidance to hanging out with people one on one, difficulty responding to messages and emails (to the point I've hired an email assistant to keep my life from crashing). Lots of people think I don't like them because I appear to be ignoring them. I wish there were
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a concrete term I could use to give people so they understand "it's not you, it's me" instead of me having to awkwardly explain my weird brain problem every time
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I relate to this so much! And it’s a serious problem for me. I hired a wonderful secretary for a while but it didn’t go down well in my professional community.
My biggest phobia is inboxes full of people who care about me or want to pay me...wtf is wrong with me? 🤨
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I know!! I've lost out on a lot of money and opportunity due to my... phobia? anxiety? whatever it is. I literally will avoid opening a message where I just need to "accept a payment."
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Too much intimacy? Focus becomes you instead of allowing it to pass from person to person within the group?
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Nope I think only part of that comment registered with me. Can you have your assistant filter things for you? So that you might be able to open things that they think won’t trigger whatever that is?
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This is a problem with modern messaging systems. We can be super connected in ways that were unimaginable before. Not responding in the way people expect it is a problem. I'm opposite, too much enthusiasm that eventually annoys people. Learning to tone it down has been difficult
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How are you with the phone? I dont seem to be able to answer mine easily unless i recognize the number/caller.
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Do you sometimes have flow-like periods, where the problem completely goes away?
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Interesting, I was suffering from the same thing, looking at basic texting like a chore (to be procrastinated and forgotten) but after my 1.5 experiences with psychedelics that went out of the window, and I can now answer messages from work without stressing too much. I
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