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"I'm not like that" is a spectrum with two sides and I don't know how to evaluate it. For example: When I was younger, I didn't like romcoms. I wasn't a person who liked it; I was "an intellectual". Of course I eventually matured a bit and figured out I did indeed like romcoms.-
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Also, when I was younger, I had trouble connecting with friends. I was "extremely introverted"; I joked about living on a deserted island. I didn't like talking with people. Of course I eventually matured a bit and figured out I did indeed like people- just kidding, no. But I did
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find a meetup group with a specific nerd subculture and found that with them, my introversion went away. I wanted to be around them all the time. I felt good talking to them. I could socialize for hours. I realized my "introversion" was just difficulty connecting with-
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most of the people around me, and my preferences totaly changed if my environment shifted just right. So on one hand I had a preference (no romcoms) that was a result of a careful sense of identity; on the other hand I had a preference that was a legit reflection of a weird brain
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@Aella_Girl
When I have strong or odd preferences now (liking a specific person, messy/cleanness, noise level preferences, food tastes, etc.), I have a really hard time telling if my drive is closer to the romcom side or the weird nerd subculture side.
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as in; I don't know if I should actually try to stretch my preferences to see if that works - because how do I know when to stretch? How would I have known, as an introvert, when to stop trying to push into extroversion and instead switch to looking for a different environment?
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