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Hey, do you like gay people? Me too! But I didn't used to; I grew up in an isolated culture that taught me gayness was a sin. I even developed a disgust reaction to gays; their immorality was obvious and gross. Eventually I left and figured out being gay was fine. But my-

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Feb 18, 2020

Disgust had impact - I contributed to shame and rejection of people (some closeted in my own community) that really could have used love and acceptance. Me trusting my moral intuition, hurt people. Refusing to question your moral intuition may lock you into hurting people.

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Feb 18, 2020

This is why I push so hard at moral edges. You should always, always question the moral responses you have. From the inside, your sense of morality feels obvious and good. It did to me too, when I was calling gay people fags. And I don't mean that you need to lose all your

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Feb 18, 2020

morals, only that you should make sure the morals you do have have been forced to validate themselves. Why are they there? What justified their existence? Find out what triggers your disgust reaction and stare straight into the heart of it.

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1/3: I have a question for you to explore, respectfully. And I’m seriously asking you to explore the question, I’m not trying to be snide or allude to any conclusion. What would you say about a persons “disgust reaction” to the prospect of incest?

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2/3: Let’s say, hypothetically that one day in the future you (or anyone reading this) have a grown son and a daughter. One day they come to you and confess they are in love and want to get married.

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3/3: They understand there are biological risks associated with their procreation, so one of them will get fixed and they will adopt children. What is your reaction to this scenario (or anyone reading)?

Aella

@Aella_Girl

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@MikePShanahan

Let consenting adults do what they want

6:49 PM · Feb 18, 2020

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Fair enough; but there are two questions buried there. The first is: should they be allowed to do it? I’m more interested in the second question: Is there anything wrong with it? Or is that “disgust reaction” purely a social construct with no real moral relevance?

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Moral senses often have evolutionary purposes. Believing sex before marriage is immoral helped with greater resources for children. Nowadays we have birth control, so that moral law has less relevance.

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