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I used to feel guilty about my hardships in life. I knew other people had been through worse things than me, so I didn't feel like I deserved to be upset about my situation. Eventually I realized this is toxic. Problems aren't a competition; my issues came inside the-
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context and experience of my own life, and it was okay to be upset about my problems, no matter much worse other people had it. Similarly, it's okay for other people to be upset about their problems even if we consider them very fortunate by comparison. When we judge the lucky,-
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we implicitly judge ourselves as being unworthy of the pain we feel as compared to those less fortunate than ourselves. We're engaging in a pain competition, where pain is distributed across a society as a limited resource instead of honored individually as a legit experience.
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