One thing I hate is "It's not the job of the marginalized to educate you." I hate it so much. Fuck that idea. It shuts down conversations, it demands submission and humiliation from the listener, is generally disrespectful, and cuts short increases in knowledge and connection.
But it assumes I'm the perpetrator. It assumes I am hurting someone. Which, like, *possibly* I am, but I'm not going to simply agree with that as a base assumption starting point in a conversation.