At least in this frame, an aggressive woman is taking on traits from the male story; she is *deviating* from her story, which is why we consider an aggressive woman to be doing something weird with gender. I think we're generally very tolerant of story deviations, but we-
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still frame it *as a story deviation*; the story is the background by which we understand how people act. Are they being a proper King, or a wimpy King?
I don't think I understand a lot of the modern discourse around gender, I suspect a lot of it is sloppy and inconsistent.
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But also I have the sense that I still don't know exactly what your question is; I'm sort of talking trying to figure out my thoughts on it here, but I don't know exactly what the crux is.
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Physical appearance? The things people expect from them based on their physical appearance? Their ability to breed? I'm a little confused - I don't think people popularly consider gender to be equal to personality.
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To clarify - in queer spaces they say gender is personality? So if you like soft things and people you're female, and if you like punching things and being a CEO then you're male? I'm a bit oversimplifying but I'm trying to clarify, is this how they view gender?
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Okay re: queerspace and personality thing I think I get what you're saying; if you're a masculine woman you're 'nonbinary', because the masculine personality traits take you out of the woman story.
Okay I wanna see if we can reframe this with the story lens here
So genderqueer people see the wimpy king and say, "The wimpy king does not belong in the king story because he is wimpy; he belongs in the wimpy story"
This seems to view the personality, or supplemental traits to the story, as defining of the story; the kingness comes from-
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not the role people bestow on him, not the fact he commands people or might get assassinated, but on being confident or vain or aggressive; they see a king who's not confident or vain as aggressive as failing to perform the story entirely
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