this shit is a koan, like
if she has to do something to get it it isn't unconditional
and i can't tell if this is super obvious or what because nobody in the replies refers to it
I'm confused about what "getting" is here.
If some people around the world have unconditional love for one person, they have it for all people -- that's truly unconditional. And what's there to get? But I guess most people don't see it that way?