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Cathy Reisenwitz (51/100 sketches)
@CathyReisenwitz
How is it submissive or humiliating to recognize you’re not owed an education from anyone, let alone marginalized people? I get why it’s embarrassing to realize you expected one and that’s kind of messed up. But it’s embarrassing the way personal growth tends to be.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
One thing I hate is "It's not the job of the marginalized to educate you." I hate it so much. Fuck that idea. It shuts down conversations, it demands submission and humiliation from the listener, is generally disrespectful, and cuts short increases in knowledge and connection.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@CathyReisenwitz
Because it typically happens in conversations with people, often ones that *they* began. I've experienced this almost universally where I bring up a question or point and then they tap out saying "It's not my job to educate you." But we were already talking!
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@CathyReisenwitz
Usually the questions I ask them in person are contextual and relevant to the conversation we've been having, not out of the blue WOULD YOU RATHER FUCK A COW. And I get not wanting to explain a basic concept, but I don't see this 'educate yourself' as used for that
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@CathyReisenwitz
One concrete example is nonbinary stuff. I did a bunch of googling about nonbinary identities and had a ton of questions that google didn't answer well, so I found a nonbinary discussion group and asked them my questions. They got FURIOUS at me.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@CathyReisenwitz
You are horrible at figuring out who's acting in good faith or not, then. I was very obviously acting in good faith in this group - I was careful, kind, open, asking how to best phrase my language. I was very obviously not an asshole trying to pull a gotcha, but it didn't help.
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