Because it typically happens in conversations with people, often ones that *they* began. I've experienced this almost universally where I bring up a question or point and then they tap out saying "It's not my job to educate you." But we were already talking!
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
No offense, but if your IRL questions at all resemble your Twitter ones, I can’t say I necessarily blame them for walking away. Also Keep in mind that it’s extremely exhausting to have to explain 101 concepts to people over and over again.
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Replying to @CathyReisenwitz
Usually the questions I ask them in person are contextual and relevant to the conversation we've been having, not out of the blue WOULD YOU RATHER FUCK A COW. And I get not wanting to explain a basic concept, but I don't see this 'educate yourself' as used for that
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
Out of curiosity, what questions have marginalized people opted out of answering for you?
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Replying to @CathyReisenwitz
One concrete example is nonbinary stuff. I did a bunch of googling about nonbinary identities and had a ton of questions that google didn't answer well, so I found a nonbinary discussion group and asked them my questions. They got FURIOUS at me.
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Replying to @Aella_Girl @CathyReisenwitz
It was stuff like "Does your sense of gender identity have a location in your body" or "how would you personally define what 'gender' is to you"
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Replying to @Aella_Girl @CathyReisenwitz
They told me I had no business expecting them to do "emotional labor" (I didn't demand anybody do anything, I just posted the questions that I assumed people wouldn't answer if they didn't want to!) and that I should go "educate myself" instead of "demanding their time"
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
So you came into a space for non-binary people expecting them to explain their experience to you? I can totally see why people who are constantly invalidated wouldn’t want to explain complicated, vulnerable stuff to an outsider whose motivations are unknown.
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Replying to @CathyReisenwitz
Not expecting, just asking! There was lots of discussion already about nonbinary stuff. I just asked questions. But people didn't say "Hey, this group actually isn't for this and we prefer not to answer", they insulted me repeatedly.
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Replying to @Aella_Girl @CathyReisenwitz
I've asked questions in a LOT of groups, all the time - I post surveys, start discussion topics, bring up curiosities of mine, in small, weird groups all over. The nonbinary group was the most hostile, angry, insulting reaction I've ever gotten.
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And for comparison I'm in a group of mostly old conservative racist white men, a group for old car repair, one for extreme astrology devotees, and group of homemakers talking about how to most efficiently beat their kids.
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