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I personally find it pretty unsexy if a guy has to require verbal consent before kissing me or escalating. I understand why they have to do it but for me personally it's a turnoff and signals an inability to read my body language/lack of social skills.

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Dr. Cody, Esq.

@codymillerpyke

Feb 5, 2020

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I personally find internalized misogyny unsexy. . A guy asking for consent isn't a lack of social skills/inability to read cues; it's him saying "I put your safety & wellness ahead of my own arrogant assumption that you want me." . Plz don't justify "she was asking for it" rape.

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I *like* it when a guy assumes I want him; it's sexy. And if I don't want him, then I just tell him or indicate that I don't want him to proceed and it's fine.

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I'm glad you have a strong sense of self to be able to say no. I hope no man ever disregards your "No." But please understand many people don't have that voice. And if the unwanted contact (kissing/groping/etc.) has already happened before you can say "No." it's still assault.

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Right, I understand why people do the whole asking for consent thing. And I've had people do unwanted contact before I can say no, and it was annoying, but I personally didn't mind or get traumatized or anything. I understand that some people do though.

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If you really "understand," then please don't use your very public platform to feed the idea that *not* asking for consent--even something as simple as checking in, a mere "You ok?"--is sexy; it's not.

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But it is absolutely sexy, for me. This is true; and according to a poll I tweeted yesterday, the majority of my female followers agree. I still understand why people ask for consent, though. I don't judge someone when they ask for consent first with me.

1:01 AM · Feb 5, 2020

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Like I said, there's infinitely less of an issue when you've talked out your boundaries with a partner... but a total stranger shouldn't be able to cry "But I thought she wanted it! She was wearing X and saying Y..etc." after he assaults someone.

Ooana Trien ~ Eric Arthur Blair’s mistress

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Oh dear god. You think this really protects someone from unwanted advances, touching or worse? Enough so to tell this woman what to say about her sex life? Enough to sound like a 1950s uptight man? Wow. Something has gone loopy, ladies. Seriously. Think about it.

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Also, "I don't judge someone when they ask for consent first with me." Seriously? You literally said in OP asking for consent is "unsexy," a "turnoff," and a signal of "an inability to read [your] body language/lack of social skills." #yesmeansyes #nomeansno #silencealsomeansno