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I personally find it pretty unsexy if a guy has to require verbal consent before kissing me or escalating. I understand why they have to do it but for me personally it's a turnoff and signals an inability to read my body language/lack of social skills.

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Dr. Cody, Esq.

@codymillerpyke

Feb 5, 2020

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@Aella_Girl

I personally find internalized misogyny unsexy. . A guy asking for consent isn't a lack of social skills/inability to read cues; it's him saying "I put your safety & wellness ahead of my own arrogant assumption that you want me." . Plz don't justify "she was asking for it" rape.

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I *like* it when a guy assumes I want him; it's sexy. And if I don't want him, then I just tell him or indicate that I don't want him to proceed and it's fine.

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I'm glad you have a strong sense of self to be able to say no. I hope no man ever disregards your "No." But please understand many people don't have that voice. And if the unwanted contact (kissing/groping/etc.) has already happened before you can say "No." it's still assault.

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Right, I understand why people do the whole asking for consent thing. And I've had people do unwanted contact before I can say no, and it was annoying, but I personally didn't mind or get traumatized or anything. I understand that some people do though.

12:54 AM · Feb 5, 2020

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If you really "understand," then please don't use your very public platform to feed the idea that *not* asking for consent--even something as simple as checking in, a mere "You ok?"--is sexy; it's not.

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But it is absolutely sexy, for me. This is true; and according to a poll I tweeted yesterday, the majority of my female followers agree. I still understand why people ask for consent, though. I don't judge someone when they ask for consent first with me.

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