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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I think the thing other people are parsing as 'gender' isn't 'gender' to me. I talked with a nonbinary friend recently who described their nonbinaryness as sort of... not wanting to be misunderstood as having female traits. This is valid! This also is completely different from-
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
what I understand as gender. I think there's some other huge cultural understanding of gender going on that isn't translating into my world. The way I parse gender, how well you are described by typical gender traits have very little to do with the gender you are.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
e.g., if you're an extremely masculine woman (like me!), this doesn't make you less of a woman. In the nonbinary gender framework, it seems like this *does* actually make you less of a woman. This is totally foreign to me.
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@evasyl
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@bdmarotta
my son is very autistic, and daughter is on that spectrum too (much less,but anyway) She sometimes says about herself in masculine (in rus lots of words are male OR female), but I really don't see how she is _masculine_. Can't say I know you a lot, but - IMO you're very feminine.