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I personally find it pretty unsexy if a guy has to require verbal consent before kissing me or escalating. I understand why they have to do it but for me personally it's a turnoff and signals an inability to read my body language/lack of social skills.

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Do you feel this way only about guys who ask verbally because of the current me too climate, or does it apply to people who just naturally have that communication style?

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Both? It indicates lack of confidence and lack of ability to read me, at least to my subconscious

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I consciously agree with you. My vagina does not find it sexy no matter how much I agree that you're being reasonable.

10:16 AM · Feb 3, 2020

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I am curious: 1. Do you find that there's variance in how much you're turned off - like some men do it in a way that turns you off less? 2. Has a man asking resulted in a sexual encounter not happening that otherwise would have happened?

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1. Yes, but I think the variance is small. 2. No

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Have you heard before that you give off confusing vibes around interest?

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I guess it matters how it's asked as well? Or no? Like, I've generally got a good response to verbally asking when first kissing, but I do try to do it in a way that anticipates, but doesn't assume, a yes, and isn't formal or awkward.

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Want to know how my penis is feeling in this present "give consent" climate?

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Watch Ledonardo DiCaprio kiss Vera Farmiga in The Departed. He moves in close pretty quickly but pauses just before. It was as though he gave her an opportunity to reject it. I thought it was neat. Like a non-verbal ask that didn't kill the mood.

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tell your vagina to pipe down, and let it know you are in charge.