more the fact that you're sitting here musing to each other about things you're incapable of understanding firsthand instead of literally just listening to the people who actually have these experiences, but what you said is more internally consistent with said circle jerk so w/e
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I, too, was once a young person desperate to be special so I’m pretty sure I get it.
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I don't think nonbinariness is (though it can be) an attempt to be special; I think it's much closer to unresolved trauma expression.
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Thanks for asking! I have talked to a lot of nonbinary people (as well as read a lot of articles by and about enbies). So I don't have a lot of authority; I mostly follow my confusion, and there's a *lot* about the genderfluid framework that is deeply confusing.
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"the genderfluid framework" lmao calm down, not everything needs a grand unifying theory. there are as many frameworks to being nonbinary as there are nonbinary people, because gender is inherently personal, and the only thing uniting us is that we don't fit the binary framework
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how about you follow your confusion away from this conversation and stop talking over nonbinary people to explain our own identities to us
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anyway it's ok not to understand something. if you can't handle confusion without trying to explain something you can't understand firsthand, that's your problem. idg pro sports, but u don't see me spouting half baked takes abt athletics being an expression of trauma
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ok 1 last thing bc this is important. u observe that nonbinary ppl all seem to have trauma, don't u think maybe we're traumatized bc of treatment from many cis folks and even binary trans folks, not that we're NB bc trauma? plenty of traumatized who aren't NB. this isn't allyship
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I suspect it's something like - someone is treated very badly because of their gender, and then things that disidentifying with their gender will make them feel better. I think it often does make them feel better! To be clear I support many methods for coping with trauma.