I personally find it pretty unsexy if a guy has to require verbal consent before kissing me or escalating. I understand why they have to do it but for me personally it's a turnoff and signals an inability to read my body language/lack of social skills.
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Do you feel this way only about guys who ask verbally because of the current me too climate, or does it apply to people who just naturally have that communication style?
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Both? It indicates lack of confidence and lack of ability to read me, at least to my subconscious
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I'm curious if you feel a difference between question-phrasings ("may I/can I/do you want me to") versus statement-phrasings ("I want to/I would like to/I think you want me to").
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I personally find internalized misogyny unsexy.
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A guy asking for consent isn't a lack of social skills/inability to read cues; it's him saying "I put your safety & wellness ahead of my own arrogant assumption that you want me."
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Plz don't justify "she was asking for it" rape.
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I *like* it when a guy assumes I want him; it's sexy. And if I don't want him, then I just tell him or indicate that I don't want him to proceed and it's fine.
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