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I'm increasingly viewing non-binaryness as more an expression of trauma and a desire to be understood as not a typical [insert birth sex here], and less to do about gender itself at all.
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Yes. With a heavy dose of reinforcing sex-based stereotypes on the side.
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I'm just gonna step into this circle jerk to point out that it's ok to just not weigh in when you have no idea what the fuck you're talking about
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Is your basis for the idea we don't know what we're talking about that you disagree with us?
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more the fact that you're sitting here musing to each other about things you're incapable of understanding firsthand instead of literally just listening to the people who actually have these experiences, but what you said is more internally consistent with said circle jerk so w/e
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I, too, was once a young person desperate to be special so I’m pretty sure I get it.
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I don't think nonbinariness is (though it can be) an attempt to be special; I think it's much closer to unresolved trauma expression.
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Thanks for asking! I have talked to a lot of nonbinary people (as well as read a lot of articles by and about enbies). So I don't have a lot of authority; I mostly follow my confusion, and there's a *lot* about the genderfluid framework that is deeply confusing.
I can see how you'd feel about it being stylistic, but being genderfluid is hard because that style change is actually to relieve dysphoria. They might not want to say it as being genderfluid is often seen as faking or being a crossdresser or "a trender" when it's not.
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It's a skill; the danger is not feeling confused when something should be a sign that something is weird
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"the genderfluid framework" lmao calm down, not everything needs a grand unifying theory. there are as many frameworks to being nonbinary as there are nonbinary people, because gender is inherently personal, and the only thing uniting us is that we don't fit the binary framework
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