Often new, spicy, or big things are tried specifically when a relationship is dying, and so those spicy things get a reputation for killing a relationship (when really they only hastened an approaching demise). Polyamory, children, threesomes, sometimes weddings fall into this!
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for a second i genuinely thought this was about spicy food, and thought... interesting, i’ve never heard that before
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Sometimes, they even postponed it. But humans will post hoc ergo propter hoc the shit out of things.
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I think this is true, but the correlation is still Bayesian evidence if you're in the relationship. A partner that suggests children when things are going poorly is further evidence that it might not be salvageable.
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this is why you pretty much gotta stick to buttstuff from day one or the whole thing was doomed before liftoff.
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My good friend just got married and told me he felt marriage was the most punk action possible, given our social group’s opposition to it
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you also turn up the difficulty when you've gotten good enough that the easy levels are boring.
wait that's games. hmmmm.
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Does the same thing happen to companies? Do they try weird risky things when it looks like they are about to die?
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