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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Polyamory myths I see again and again 1. Poly means you're less committed to your partner 2. Poly relationships don't last as long 3. If you're poly you must like casual sex/have a higher sex drive/are promiscuous 4. If you're poly you must be with more than one person
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
1. I know plenty long-term married poly people with kids 2.. In a study I did people's primary poly relationships lasted as long as mono ones 2. I know some poly people who don't even have sex, and most rarely have casual sex 4. Some poly ppl are dating 1 person and like it
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azazell86
@azazell86
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@Aella_Girl
Honest to god question - how do you handle gealosy in a poly relationship? I simply cannot get past this mindset - even if you are happy for the other person, this primal urge to keep them for yourself, should be ingrained in all of us, as possesive primates
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@azazell86
I've been poly for nearly ten years now and it differs with each relationship - but overall it gets easier. Jealousy for me is primal 'fear that they'll steal my partner away' - but after years of my partners *not* getting stolen away, the fear is just less convincing.