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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Internet abuse from sjw/pro life ppl have a lot in common with the tactics of my narcissistic abusive father. Both of them: *Insisted the issue was with you, never admitted vulnerability or fault ever *Validated your experience ONLY if you adhered to their rules (cont)
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
*Focused on performative obedience as a sign of submission; it doesn't matter what you actually mean, it matters if you signal submission *Assume you are default wrong/sinful (privilege, original sin), and you can never truly atone
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
*Your identity and role determines how much respect you get (you are a child/cis, you don't get to have an opinion) *If you don't 100% adhere, then your words are deliberately interpreted in the most unflattering way possible *Tries to hurt you (getting you fired, beatings)
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
*Black and white, good/bad thinking, with us/against us *Don't question the narrative - if a question is wrong or dangerous then it is bad and must be suppressed *If you disagree, that means you are morally corrupt, and perceived as a threat, not as discourse.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
*Anything you say to try to demonstrate you're not a bad person is just more evidence of how bad you are *Will absolutely, never, ever, show vulnerability, humanness, admit weakness or wrongdoing, clinging to outside validation as support (church, "everybody agrees")
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I ended up completely cutting ties with my father because anything I used to try to communicate with him was just twisted into a weapon. I feel similarly about certain internet mob subcultures - they're using the exact same tactics and the only answer is to block.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@morbidtaint
I think it does? Like, I consider religious communities to often be equivalent in toxicness to SJW communities, but they are very about "doing good" and "helping the poor" and "not lying" and stuff that are really actually good things.
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Patrick ₿ Dugan
@duganist
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@Aella_Girl
A lot of the Millenial political discourse is a big therapy ritual we're mass participating in to try and replace the traditional family, that failed us in some ways due to weaponized viral pre-internet memes, with sub-culture tribes replete with our own weaponized internet memes
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Anna Gát 🧭
@TheAnnaGat
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@Aella_Girl
This is a fantastic thread. Was very upsetting for me to read but happy I did and accept your analogy (in fact it could be even broader, applied to a whole behaviour pattern).
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Soylent Hill
@vgman94
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@Aella_Girl
Your experiences with your father remind me of my relationship to my mother. Never admitting fault, clinging to outside support (she would often resort to “Everybody says.” “Nobody does.” Etc), wanting submission to her views. I’m sorry you’ve suffered similarly.