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Internet abuse from sjw/pro life ppl have a lot in common with the tactics of my narcissistic abusive father. Both of them: *Insisted the issue was with you, never admitted vulnerability or fault ever *Validated your experience ONLY if you adhered to their rules (cont)
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*Focused on performative obedience as a sign of submission; it doesn't matter what you actually mean, it matters if you signal submission *Assume you are default wrong/sinful (privilege, original sin), and you can never truly atone
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*Your identity and role determines how much respect you get (you are a child/cis, you don't get to have an opinion) *If you don't 100% adhere, then your words are deliberately interpreted in the most unflattering way possible *Tries to hurt you (getting you fired, beatings)
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*Black and white, good/bad thinking, with us/against us *Don't question the narrative - if a question is wrong or dangerous then it is bad and must be suppressed *If you disagree, that means you are morally corrupt, and perceived as a threat, not as discourse.
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*Anything you say to try to demonstrate you're not a bad person is just more evidence of how bad you are *Will absolutely, never, ever, show vulnerability, humanness, admit weakness or wrongdoing, clinging to outside validation as support (church, "everybody agrees")
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I ended up completely cutting ties with my father because anything I used to try to communicate with him was just twisted into a weapon. I feel similarly about certain internet mob subcultures - they're using the exact same tactics and the only answer is to block.
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And like, this isn't an issue with the content itself - I'm not saying that this means my father's arguments were wrong, or that the SJWs aren't making good points - I'm saying the process they're using to go about it is about dominance, not about communication.
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