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Callie 🐿️
@WhoNeedsGoals
You know, it took me about an hour to hash things out in my brain and sure my default was going to be to call the new guy at work by his correct pronouns. (He isn't on t.) I get it can take a min... WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK.
@Aella_Girl
you need to work through some big damn issues. t.co/TMx2Ebc1qA
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Callie 🐿️
@WhoNeedsGoals
And not to diminish the transphobia of the piece, @hehimbitch. I just... don't think we can expect this individual to treat other human beings as human beings. They appear to have extremely broad problems in this area that sound like they need some fucking therapy.
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Callie 🐿️
@WhoNeedsGoals
I am also totally baffled at the idea that we're "playing pretend" when using somebody's pronouns when we can equally say we're "playing pretend" when we reify modern European gender constructs. Like culture is literally constructed through public negotiation what.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@WhoNeedsGoals
Yeah, absolutely. Sometimes I feel this really strongly, like I'm going through the expected cultural steps of something feeling like i'm playing pretend in a kid's game. Only difference is, I don't feel afraid of saying this to people.
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Callie 🐿️
@WhoNeedsGoals
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@Aella_Girl
But it's you, here, many of us are not in any way pretending. We're negotiating our shared culture such that we can all flourish under by having genuine interactions with other individuals. The fact that you think we're all pretending is what disturbs me.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@WhoNeedsGoals
Maybe you don't feel like you're pretending, but I do. I don't mind if you don't feel like you're pretending, that doesn't impact me. What I do mind is that I feel not allowed to share my experience of pretending with others.
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Callie 🐿️
@WhoNeedsGoals
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@Aella_Girl
Look at what you're typing above this. You're using the means at your disposal to dodge the responsibility to do self work. You have to want and to work to change. It hurts you for someone to point out you're actively callous. Work on not being actively callous.