I mean, I get it, and I know that you're getting quite a bit of backlash, but many people have and are going to interpret your words as very hurtful. We've been told our whole lives that we're "lesser," and so this especially stings.
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Replying to @quinnception
I've been extremely clear in a huge amount of this discussion that I'm pro trans, that the vast majority of trans people aren't pretending, that trans lives are very hard, but people are just ignoring what I'm saying and acting like I hate trans people, wtf.
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Replying to @Aella_Girl @quinnception
Like if what I'm saying is hurtful, okay let's discuss that. But people are saying I'm coming from a perspective that I'm not coming from, I'm not going to apologize for believing something I don't believe.
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
But people don't want to be hurt and then discuss why that hurt them. It is very hard to have a rational conversation about why what one did is hurtful immediately after being hurt.
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Replying to @quinnception @Aella_Girl
I've been seriously hurt by this too, but I'm trying to stay calm enough to explain what's going on. I'm not asking you to be sorry for being anti-trans. I'm just asking that you trust us, for now, that this hurt a lot and that we find it both completely untrue and painful.
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Replying to @quinnception
I'm willing to accept that this was hurtful. I'm also interested in being able to communicate, even if this requires rearranging my language. I would also like that people engage with my actual beliefs, not a false boogyman about them.
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
If I may suggest, then, deleting the original thread may be the best place to start, because as long as it's up, it can and will be interpreted in a way that may not jibe with your actual beliefs.
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Replying to @quinnception
I explained my actual beliefs inside the thread over and over again. I also don't believe that censoring myself in order to avoid causing pain to others is automatically correct. I'd like to work to reduce pain I cause to others without sacrificing my own expression.
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
If you don't believe in censoring yourself once you've hurt people and you've been told that, I don't know what else to say. Other people won't censor themselves either, and to expect them to read everything you've written after you've hurt them is...hopeful, to say the least.
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Replying to @quinnception @Aella_Girl
I think that I'm just about at the limit of what I can say without allowing my emotions through, so I'll wish you the best and truly hope that this becomes a moment of self-reflection rather than knee-jerk defensiveness. Best
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I appreciate you engaging with me and you respecting your own boundaries of how much you can engage. Best to you too!
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