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Dec 13, 2019

also, constantly berating men as a whole for bad behavior tends to fucking destroy the really conscientious ones who are most likely to listen and have zero effect on the ones who don't care that they're behaving badly twitter.com/SloaneSays/sta

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QC (4/10 Substack posts)

@QiaochuYuan

Dec 14, 2019

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yes! i have thought this many times but never said it b/c Too Scary

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:C i'm sure i'd be too scared to say it, too, if i were a guy

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I said it one time in public. Ow ow ow such a lash back. I don't think it is useful for me to say it again in public. Private conversations keep exploding on in all directions though.

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I think it is OK for you to not say this in public QC cuz communication is not 2 isolated nodes transmitting thru hygienic lossless pipes. Communication includes context. Being a man is relevant. Widespread misogyny is relevant. So it is reasonable to mistrust men saying it.

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It only takes one mistrustful, hurt, angry reader to RT and start a firestorm. It is uncontrollable but predictable.

QC (4/10 Substack posts)

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yep, agreed. i’m glad i know non-men like

@Aella_Girl

who are willing to say this sort of thing, it’s a very different speech act when they do it

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this makes me mad. the cult of female idolatry is taking away good expression from good people.

8:05 PM · Dec 14, 2019

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❤️ part of the issue is the way a public tweet can leak out of the context of people who have a sense of where i’m coming from, to reach people who lack that context and are just gonna judge based on priors. this is structurally baked into how RTs work