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Carl and Bob agree that neither of them will spend time alone with another friend. Five years into their friendship, Bob secretly meets up for beers and shooting pool with Alice. Carl asks him where he was -Bob lies. Carl finds out and, furious, ends the friendship. (cont)

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My counter argument would be that both people entered in to the agreement consentually, and that if one party doesn’t like the agreement anymore, there is a legal way out of it. And if you still care about the person, you should go about it the legal way to minimize hurt.

Aella

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Agreed! But this argument is inconsistently applied across other social issues. We often view social pressure as removing responsibility from the individual - for example ads cause eating disorders and women's insecurity, despite women having agency over what they do.

8:52 PM · Nov 15, 2019

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That’s fair. It’s a very tricky line to nail down. Most people have agency, but humans are easily influenced. I’m reminded of the court who convicted a woman of involuntary manslaughter for convincing her boyfriend to kill himself.