Carl and Bob agree that neither of them will spend time alone with another friend. Five years into their friendship, Bob secretly meets up for beers and shooting pool with Alice. Carl asks him where he was -Bob lies. Carl finds out and, furious, ends the friendship. (cont)
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So like - Bob did make an agreement, break it, and lie. But this seems of secondary importance to the fact that they literally made each other promise something that is really hard to do in the long run, out of what's probably severe insecurity, and not actually healthy. (cont)
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When I see monogamous people cheat in media (or real life?), this is sort of the reaction I have. Yeah - they did break an agreement and lie. But seriously how is nobody talking about the insane agreement they felt pressured to enter in the first place?? No shit they cheated!
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My counter argument would be that both people entered in to the agreement consentually, and that if one party doesn’t like the agreement anymore, there is a legal way out of it. And if you still care about the person, you should go about it the legal way to minimize hurt.
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Agreed! But this argument is inconsistently applied across other social issues. We often view social pressure as removing responsibility from the individual - for example ads cause eating disorders and women's insecurity, despite women having agency over what they do.
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Woodward was so much better than Bernstein to begin with; he was kind to have given him the 5 good years.
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You know what else is hard, quantum physics. Something being hard is a terrible argument for not doing it.
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